8. Interracial Dating – What If We Were Real Talk Show – Episode 8 #RelationshipGoals My single & married friends and I held nothing back as they discuss …
This is such an amazing series I am so thankful to have watched it. I am learning so much about being single and learning about what it is to be in a relationship.
I really like you Mandisa..I've been falling in love with these talks..okey I like the way ur real and honest with yourself..if I was in America I would look for you to be my friend..
I find it weird, that black women of African Ancestry don't like to be promoted to all races of men, while black men, loves to be promoted too other races of women and other races of women, love to be promoted too all races of men, including Black men. Black women what is wrong with you/us…?
ONE SIDED LOYALTY IS FOR SUCKERS, Are you a sucker, my sisters.?
Its finally, our time to shine and be the it girl, why fight it…? It's not like our black relationships are any more solid or a guarantee. Time to try some thing one different. Black African descended females are statistically, the lease likely of all humans, to SWIRL and the lease likely, to be married in the western World. Do the Math literally. Time to be as courageous, as the world, think we are, my sisters.
I am a white woman with curly hair and I used to like this white this guy from my church. One day he told me that maybe I was still single because I insisted in wearing my hair naturally curly and men like straight hair. I felt so hurt at the time. 5 years later he ended up marrying a black woman who wears her hair natural. Moral of the story, men can have all the ideas about what they think is more appealing until they meet someone they really like and then they realize how wrong they were. Also, I'm proudly part of the silk bonnet club and my boyfriend already knows that if he marries me he'll see me sleep in a silk bonnet every single night.
I was nervous about watching this episode. I am so glad that you had such a wide variety of opinions and honesty in those viewpoints. I wish you had been able to address opposition comes from the black community as well. Hearing a Christian perspective about "queens" wanting to love and protect their "kings" is something I am still trying to understand.
It's so funny, you never know who you're going to end up with. I was always attracted to Asian guys, and I ended up marrying someone of Celtic descent like myself. "God is going to give me eyes for whoever I end up with." Yes! This is it exactly! <3
I'm black, always dreamed of being with a white guy cuz that was what I was attracted to mostly growing up. 1st and 3rd boyfriends were black, 2nd was white. Out of the 3 the white guy was the shortest relationship and the most superficial, though all 3 ultimately were not good for me. That doesn't say anything about the color, but about the guys themselves. I've always been open to whatever color but at this point I'm not as attached to having a white husband like I used to be, though by no means would I be against it. For all I know God could bless me with an Italian or something. Who knows and who cares, as long as he's my gift from God I don't care what wrapping paper He chooses to use✌️
Thank you, Mandisa, for this episode. I loved the honesty of the panel and how each is open to looking beyond race to date. I grew up in a racist family and vowed I would never raise my children to think this way. I dated interracially often as I grew up in my later years in Wash DC and the surrounding area. I honestly thought I would marry a black man, but God had a different plan for me. I am pleased to say he has blessed me with a 39 year old marriage because I listened to HIM and not to my own will. I feel so strongly about encouraging positive race relations, especially now. I look forward to viewing the other episodes you have coming up on this.
I’m attracted to white men and I’m not ashamed of it; btw I’m black. Disa don’t be offended by the white mans comment about your hair; he’s right. I’m sure you have beautiful natural hair.
To be fair I’ve heard much more negative comments about black hair from black men than anything. Just leave the picking to God and he’ll be the right one!
I loved this conversation. I have been recently following interracial marriages/couples especially Christian, just to learn a few things. I have learned a few things, they really do not have an issue with our black hair and they are excited to learn about the other race. I will be 40 in a few months next year and I have been waiting and waiting and waiting. But hey Many are the plans in a mans heart but it is the Lord's purpose that will prevail. His timing is perfect and I still believe that the desires that I have come from Him, because He is my Father. So in the past year I have been studying the Jewish wedding traditions and how all that relates to the Bible and I loved it. Has anybody watched Jonathan and Rebecca Weiss wedding on Daystar??Wow…Totally amazing. So I know that when I do get married I am going to have a Shofar, a Prayer Shawl, will get married under the chuppah etc and then my favourite..the breaking of the glass. Just super amazing. So I went from that to desiring to be married to a Devout Christian Jewish man. That's my desire….but if God wants me to marry a Black that's okay as well…
I thought this would be simple; because we love Jesus it shouldn't matter. This has been far more interesting especially with the men. This is an amazing dialogue because of your panel. I love the depth of the honesty. We are as human attracted to certain people, but at the end of the day (situation) it God's will.
I will definitely date someone from a different race this is so normal for my family. But I feel as sometimes as black women other races may seem to not be open. Or maybe just not bold to pursue. Because it may get complicated to them. And since these days where dealing with what’s going with our nation about black lives they really may not want to approach us. So much great insight thanks so much. Glad you spoke on this. ?
Interracial dating is quite interesting & redundant as the “black” are seen as a “it” in the relationship nothing more than that. The white are seen as privileged.
I am 100% open to a relationship with a man of any color or culture! I find it interesting how the women are more open to that than the men, in general. I wonder why that is? Please keep doing these! I look forward to it every week! You should do an episode about why we all find it so hard to meet people! I don’t get it!
I love you so much Mandisa and this conversation is much needed. As for myself being a believer and a black woman I don’t want to be with anyone outside of my race. Before when I was growing up white relationships were advertised a lot and I was like ooooo forget the black man let me be with someone outside of my race. Then I had several encounters with racism and was like hell no! But as I drew and even draw closer to God, I see the stronghold of racism within all races, and that’s causing division. When I understood that God made our color and race intentionally to not be ignored but to show his diversity, I knew I had to look at my life. And similar to what Anthony said, I want to be the change in the black community that demonstrates God’s love!
I’m glad you had men and women chime in on this topic in the same video! On the having to teach another race about your culture aspect, I believe that’s part of the learning about your spouse process. Even within the Black community, there’s other cultural differences that we may have to explain to our partners, from cooking to colorism. If your partner is willing to learn more about you and accept those nuances, enjoy!
I won't even lie, I fear white men. I am from Kenya and I remember when I was a young girl I saw a couple on one of the weddings shows on TV, a Kenyan girl was getting married to a german, they seemed happy and the wedding was beautiful. A few weeks later she was killed by her husband when they returned to Germany. I have never forgotten that story.
This is such an amazing series I am so thankful to have watched it. I am learning so much about being single and learning about what it is to be in a relationship.
I loved Anthony’s answers on this episode and episode 9. I totally agree.
Appreciate the honesty in this segment. I think we all have these thoughts but never talk about it.
I really like you Mandisa..I've been falling in love with these talks..okey I like the way ur real and honest with yourself..if I was in America I would look for you to be my friend..
why is this topic even worth a video? so dumb, tbh.
Black men stories is always the most focused on.
I find it weird, that black women of African Ancestry don't like to be promoted to all races of men, while black men, loves to be promoted too other races of women and other races of women, love to be promoted too all races of men, including Black men. Black women what is wrong with you/us…?
ONE SIDED LOYALTY IS FOR SUCKERS, Are you a sucker, my sisters.?
Its finally, our time to shine and be the it girl, why fight it…?
It's not like our black relationships are any more solid or a guarantee.
Time to try some thing one different.
Black African descended females are statistically, the lease likely of all humans, to SWIRL and the lease likely, to be married in the western World.
Do the Math literally.
Time to be as courageous, as the world, think we are, my sisters.
I am a white woman with curly hair and I used to like this white this guy from my church. One day he told me that maybe I was still single because I insisted in wearing my hair naturally curly and men like straight hair. I felt so hurt at the time. 5 years later he ended up marrying a black woman who wears her hair natural. Moral of the story, men can have all the ideas about what they think is more appealing until they meet someone they really like and then they realize how wrong they were.
Also, I'm proudly part of the silk bonnet club and my boyfriend already knows that if he marries me he'll see me sleep in a silk bonnet every single night.
This is so good!
I was nervous about watching this episode. I am so glad that you had such a wide variety of opinions and honesty in those viewpoints. I wish you had been able to address opposition comes from the black community as well. Hearing a Christian perspective about "queens" wanting to love and protect their "kings" is something I am still trying to understand.
Would you like to join our interracial relationships discord server?
https://discord.gg/uws6nfA
It's so funny, you never know who you're going to end up with. I was always attracted to Asian guys, and I ended up marrying someone of Celtic descent like myself. "God is going to give me eyes for whoever I end up with." Yes! This is it exactly! <3
I'm black, always dreamed of being with a white guy cuz that was what I was attracted to mostly growing up. 1st and 3rd boyfriends were black, 2nd was white. Out of the 3 the white guy was the shortest relationship and the most superficial, though all 3 ultimately were not good for me. That doesn't say anything about the color, but about the guys themselves. I've always been open to whatever color but at this point I'm not as attached to having a white husband like I used to be, though by no means would I be against it. For all I know God could bless me with an Italian or something. Who knows and who cares, as long as he's my gift from God I don't care what wrapping paper He chooses to use✌️
every time you describe your ideal man, I think of Anthony Evans ??
I love interracial dating/relationships. I believe it is one of the witnesses of the church. #humansfirst
Thank you, Mandisa, for this episode. I loved the honesty of the panel and how each is open to looking beyond race to date. I grew up in a racist family and vowed I would never raise my children to think this way. I dated interracially often as I grew up in my later years in Wash DC and the surrounding area. I honestly thought I would marry a black man, but God had a different plan for me. I am pleased to say he has blessed me with a 39 year old marriage because I listened to HIM and not to my own will. I feel so strongly about encouraging positive race relations, especially now. I look forward to viewing the other episodes you have coming up on this.
That man who told the woman to change your hairstyle was racist because no man romantically attracted to a woman would try to change her.
Mandisa, girl the first person I thought of when you mentioned what kind of man you wanted is Ruben Studdard. Y’all would be sooo cute together. ?
I’m attracted to white men and I’m not ashamed of it; btw I’m black. Disa don’t be offended by the white mans comment about your hair; he’s right. I’m sure you have beautiful natural hair.
Never once considered dating a non-Human. #OneRace #CreatedInGodsImage
To be fair I’ve heard much more negative comments about black hair from black men than anything. Just leave the picking to God and he’ll be the right one!
I love Gab’s honesty! ???
I loved this conversation. I have been recently following interracial marriages/couples especially Christian, just to learn a few things. I have learned a few things, they really do not have an issue with our black hair and they are excited to learn about the other race. I will be 40 in a few months next year and I have been waiting and waiting and waiting. But hey Many are the plans in a mans heart but it is the Lord's purpose that will prevail. His timing is perfect and I still believe that the desires that I have come from Him, because He is my Father. So in the past year I have been studying the Jewish wedding traditions and how all that relates to the Bible and I loved it. Has anybody watched Jonathan and Rebecca Weiss wedding on Daystar??Wow…Totally amazing. So I know that when I do get married I am going to have a Shofar, a Prayer Shawl, will get married under the chuppah etc and then my favourite..the breaking of the glass. Just super amazing. So I went from that to desiring to be married to a Devout Christian Jewish man. That's my desire….but if God wants me to marry a Black that's okay as well…
Mandisa is a REAL ONE for bringing us this conversation
I thought this would be simple; because we love Jesus it shouldn't matter. This has been far more interesting especially with the men. This is an amazing dialogue because of your panel. I love the depth of the honesty. We are as human attracted to certain people, but at the end of the day (situation) it God's will.
Interracial relationships ROCK!?
I will definitely date someone from a different race this is so normal for my family. But I feel as sometimes as black women other races may seem to not be open. Or maybe just not bold to pursue. Because it may get complicated to them.
And since these days where dealing with what’s going with our nation about black lives they really may not want to approach us.
So much great insight thanks so much. Glad you spoke on this. ?
Interracial dating is quite interesting & redundant as the “black” are seen as a “it” in the relationship nothing more than that. The white are seen as privileged.
I am 100% open to a relationship with a man of any color or culture! I find it interesting how the women are more open to that than the men, in general. I wonder why that is? Please keep doing these! I look forward to it every week! You should do an episode about why we all find it so hard to meet people! I don’t get it!
I love you so much Mandisa and this conversation is much needed. As for myself being a believer and a black woman I don’t want to be with anyone outside of my race. Before when I was growing up white relationships were advertised a lot and I was like ooooo forget the black man let me be with someone outside of my race. Then I had several encounters with racism and was like hell no! But as I drew and even draw closer to God, I see the stronghold of racism within all races, and that’s causing division. When I understood that God made our color and race intentionally to not be ignored but to show his diversity, I knew I had to look at my life. And similar to what Anthony said, I want to be the change in the black community that demonstrates God’s love!
I’m glad you had men and women chime in on this topic in the same video! On the having to teach another race about your culture aspect, I believe that’s part of the learning about your spouse process. Even within the Black community, there’s other cultural differences that we may have to explain to our partners, from cooking to colorism. If your partner is willing to learn more about you and accept those nuances, enjoy!
I'm married, but I am still enjoying these very candid conversations about race, dating, etc.
I won't even lie, I fear white men. I am from Kenya and I remember when I was a young girl I saw a couple on one of the weddings shows on TV, a Kenyan girl was getting married to a german, they seemed happy and the wedding was beautiful. A few weeks later she was killed by her husband when they returned to Germany. I have never forgotten that story.
I love these candid discussions??
I think your hair looks beautiful ❤