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Father visited wrong grave for 7 years

 

A father recently learned the grave he had been visiting for seven years was not that of his stillborn son.

Vance Abeyta visits the grave at Mt. Olivet Cemetery frequently. It wasn’t until this year he decided to get the money together and put his son’s name, Quincy Abeyta, on the headstone.

“I was told it would take 90 days. I came out here 120 days later in July to visit him and his name wasn’t on there,” Abeyta said.

He called of the Catholic Archdiocese of Denver and was told the headstone had been engraved. The problem was that both the headstone and the grave were in a different spot in the cemetery than the location Abeyta was given seven years ago.

“Come to find out my son is not even buried here where I thought he’s been buried for the last seven years. He’s buried a few graves over,” Abeyta said.

For seven years he’s been visiting the wrong site. He’s dropped off toys and flowers. He’s sat and talked with the son he named “Quincy.”

“I was crying over someone else’s child when I was out here over the years. That’s what bothers me the most is I wasn’t in the right spot,” Abeyta said.

The archdiocese buries stillborn children for free. But they still want the families to have the same experience as anyone else.

“We want to do the best we can to rectify that and meet with the family to honor their needs and honor their son. Their unborn son,” said Scott Drzewiecki, executive director of the Archdiocese of Denver’s Mortuary and Cemeteries.

To apologize, the archdiocese will contribute donations from the next Memorial Day mass to a charity of Abeyta’s choosing. And Vance’s tattoo memorializing his son, will now be engraved on Quincy’s actual headstone.

Abeyta says he appreciates the gesture and is taking advantage of the offers.

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